Does your significant other ever guilt you about money you spend on watches?

Title is a pretty straight forward question.

In my case I have been funding my watch obsession by selling off stuff I have been keeping in the house because it's too valuable to donate and not a good fit for selling in the annual neighborhood garage sale event. Things like Magic the Gathering cards, old camera lenses or other gaming memorabilia.

With the work I have put into selling things I have accumulated both a decent collection of watches and a nice little slush fund. Nothing I have purchased would be called a luxury watch but a decent little collection none the less. It keeps my hobby from affecting the family budget which seems to have until recently a pretty good trade off. My closet space increases by exchanging storage boxes for watch boxes.

But recently my wife has been hinting that she would like me to share this bounty. I feel it's a bit unfair as I agree to spend the family budget on things she wants (but don't always need) with little to no argument from me like Disneyworld vacations (2 this year) and a dog that I never wanted. I should add that I am willing to contribute to family costs with this money - when our water heater exploded and we were facing a $6k bill for replacing it with a tankless water heater that money came from selling Magic cards.

It's really starting to become an issue for me - that my success in selling of treasures from my youth has started to become something she wants a part of.

Anyhow <end rant> and thank you for attending my TED talk.

Back to the bigger question; how do all of you navigate this issue with the other stakeholders in your house?

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I take care of my family, tithe, bills and other responsibilities first. Leftovers end up in my slush fund (which is sometimes used on watch purchases, among my other interests). It’s never been an issue for me.

I hope you and the wife can work this out. Communication is one of the most important things in any marriage.

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Firstly, maybe you guys should sit down and have a talk about it. Wouldn’t want this to become a bigger thing and hinder your relationship.

My wife and I go under the philosophy that we each can do what we want with our discretionary income. Once we give the appropriate portion to each expense (bills, savings, etc.) there is no issue spending on our hobbies and interests

Setting clear boundaries and ‘rules’ on your finances as a couple is extremely important for longevity.

Just my 2 cents!

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Probably best for you two to work it out and not solicit advice from us. We don’t know anything but our own stuff. Hope all the best for you and your family.

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Probably best for you two to work it out and not solicit advice from us. We don’t know anything but our own stuff. Hope all the best for you and your family.

Oh, that's how it's gonna work - talking it out. I just wanted to rant a bit and ask whether others find themselves in the same situation.

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I would also suggest to talk it out, but not about the watches, but about how you dislike family decisions that you are little part of. This can lead to frustration and a growing lust for a hobby or private life where nobody has the right to decide for you.

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She jokes about it. I don't know if it's my secret sauce but I bring her into all my hobbies and random things I like. Just like I do the same for the stuff she likes. For example I would buy a 400 dollar watch. Three months later she likes some shoes or some hair electronic I just grab it and buy it. I tell her if I can buy a watch for me I can buy these shoes for her. Or as soon as I hear I think I need new (insert item here) I always say cool make it a date and we go buy it this weekend. She's pretty supportive at longest I don't blow the rent, bills, savings, 401k etc. on watches.

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I would never dream of jumping into anybody else’s marriage issues, I’ve got enough of my own. That said, I hope this works out for you (and that you get to keep collecting watches).

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She's got something else in mind for that money.

She thinks you have enough watches.

I haven't had any grief from my wife on what I've spent on watches, but that's because 1) I don't buy watches that cost thousands and 2) she is a great wife that sees I hardly ever spend money on myself.

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My Mrs is as addicted to watches & as irresponsible with cash as I am - a perfect partnership 😁

(Both older, so responsibilities have grown up and gone & very little monthly bills due to age)

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Disneyworld, omg, the horror!! I would get a divorce 😂

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HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE!