Am I a bad person?
On Thursday I got a watch from my dad as a gift.
I Was buzzing when I saw it. The following day I adjusted the size.
Today going to church I had that feeling( the doubt feeling), one was felt the bracelet was a bit too polished for my liking and the black dial isn't for me I guess.
Has this ever happened to any of you or am I just a jerk?
Man I feel so bad that it was supposed to be sentimental I guess 😪
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You’re just a jerk! Sorry 😢
😂😂😂😂
I don't like black dials either.
The thing with watches is, aesthetics are subjective. It's all heavily taste dependent. It's no different to if your father bought you a sweater. It might simply not be your style. The intention behind a watch as a gift is obviously very generous and meaningful, but there's still no accounting for taste. I've been given watches as gifts by my dad and we have completely opposing tastes. He likes big divers and tank-like G Shocks, whereas I prefer svelte field watches. I tried wearing a big diver he gave me (a hand me down) and when I said it wasn't my style, he asked if he could have it and he actually started wearing it and appreciating it again).
i feel you too man, i rarely wearing the watch that was given to me by my friends lol. i dont like most of them, and they are sitting on my unworn watch box. im just a jerk just like you lol
Not a jerk, but maybe a bit too picky. Taste ebbs and flows and I've received gifts that I didn't immediately love, but grew on me over time. My advice is to wear it for a week or two straight and you might start appreciating the strengths and overlooking some of the shortcomings.
You are not at all a jerk for not liking the gift. How you, and possibly your father, handle that dislike is what determines whether either of you is a jerk or not, and how you both act will depend on your cultures, your personalities, and your family norms. I only hope that a gift won’t end up creating problems for the two of you. It happens all the time in my family, and makes me sad every time.
All that aside, I agree with @jrfreed353 that giving it some time is wise, unless you feel strongly that you’ll need to return it and need it pristine in order to do so.
I understand that you’re young so I feel like I have to explain a bit my initial reaction! My dad died about 6-7 years ago while we were attempting with my wife to have our first child (which we lost at 4-5 months of labour). I would have loved to have any type, colour, movement, bracelet or strap watch from him but I never got the chance. His watch got stolen when they were moving him to the hospital! My mum is dying as we speak from cancer at 67. She has barely experienced what it is to be a grandma and enjoy being around my daughter! She just gifted me her female watches. None of them is my style, match my colour preference and all three watches require servicing (none of them is working). It is my honour, and I say this while being very emotional, having my mum’s watches. They will be the crown of my watch collecting journey and will always remind me of my mum! They are a unique sentimental gift, more spiritual than a mechanism! Your dad must be a great guy gifting you a watch! Yes you might not like the colour neither the bracelet but this is a piece of your dad’s love for you and I advise you that you cherish it as such! You will understand what I mean in many years from now! Be well and take care 🙏
Just kidding! :)
Give the watch a little time. Sometimes the features you're cool on at first grow on you and become why you love it.
I understand that you’re young so I feel like I have to explain a bit my initial reaction! My dad died about 6-7 years ago while we were attempting with my wife to have our first child (which we lost at 4-5 months of labour). I would have loved to have any type, colour, movement, bracelet or strap watch from him but I never got the chance. His watch got stolen when they were moving him to the hospital! My mum is dying as we speak from cancer at 67. She has barely experienced what it is to be a grandma and enjoy being around my daughter! She just gifted me her female watches. None of them is my style, match my colour preference and all three watches require servicing (none of them is working). It is my honour, and I say this while being very emotional, having my mum’s watches. They will be the crown of my watch collecting journey and will always remind me of my mum! They are a unique sentimental gift, more spiritual than a mechanism! Your dad must be a great guy gifting you a watch! Yes you might not like the colour neither the bracelet but this is a piece of your dad’s love for you and I advise you that you cherish it as such! You will understand what I mean in many years from now! Be well and take care 🙏
Well said. I have a similar story. Really wish I had a watch from my parents.
@I_am_ndemo you're not a jerk. Style is very subjective. Just hang on to it until you appreciate it.
Didn't read the post. Just here to answer your question: yes you probably are a bad person🍻
Nothing is ever sentimental at first. It is only sentimental after a time when you want to bring back those memories. Hang on to the watch and enjoy it when the time comes.
It‘s spelled J E R K , jerk 🙈
I understand that you’re young so I feel like I have to explain a bit my initial reaction! My dad died about 6-7 years ago while we were attempting with my wife to have our first child (which we lost at 4-5 months of labour). I would have loved to have any type, colour, movement, bracelet or strap watch from him but I never got the chance. His watch got stolen when they were moving him to the hospital! My mum is dying as we speak from cancer at 67. She has barely experienced what it is to be a grandma and enjoy being around my daughter! She just gifted me her female watches. None of them is my style, match my colour preference and all three watches require servicing (none of them is working). It is my honour, and I say this while being very emotional, having my mum’s watches. They will be the crown of my watch collecting journey and will always remind me of my mum! They are a unique sentimental gift, more spiritual than a mechanism! Your dad must be a great guy gifting you a watch! Yes you might not like the colour neither the bracelet but this is a piece of your dad’s love for you and I advise you that you cherish it as such! You will understand what I mean in many years from now! Be well and take care 🙏
Let me wear it right now. Thank you for sharing and I hope stability in your family.
Let me wear it right now. Thank you for sharing and I hope stability in your family.
Thank you my friend!
I wish the same to you and your family 🙏
I have two watch boxes: The Show, and the Memorabilia. I admire and maintain the Memorabilia watches and wear them on occasion. But it is as much a box of memories as watches.
Ohhhhhh I know the feeling. Knowing I love watches, my stepson sent me this....thing....for Christmas last year. Thank GAWD he lives 1500 miles away and will never know I wouldn't wear it on a bet. 😂
Not a jerk at all.... The heart loves what the heart loves 😂